That same friend has taught me and my Love to ASK two questions that changed the way we communicate with each other, our kids and the people around us.
What do you need?
How can I help?
ASKing those questions when someone is stressed, angry, tired, sad, or scared communicate to them they aren't in this situation alone.
For our marriage, it communicates compassion and support. With our kids, it helps them know we hear them and want to be helpful, not against them or dismissive of them. For our friends, it reminds them, we want to be there for them.
One word of caution - Follow through. If they answer the question, be prepared to do what they've asked of you. This will build trust that you really mean what you've said, they aren't in it alone.
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